Have a Li'l Fun!

Since I work with a lot of brides, I thought I'd offer my best advice for a happy marriage.

I have to admit, I didn't come up with the following advice on my own. I'm a big believer in learning from others' experiences. It saves a lot time and disappointment on my end.

The best counsel I ever received was from a childhood neighbor. Mr. Lunsford is the kindest white-haired man I know. Before I was married nearly 5 years ago, he sat me down and had a sweet heart-to-heart. He taught me that while love is important in a relationship, it evolves with time. Sometimes love is full of passion and excitement. Other times it feels like mundane work. What carries you through the changes of love is utmost respect and tolerance for one another.

After 5 years, I understand what he meant by that. Love creates the marriage but respect and tolerance are what’s needed to create longevity in a marriage. Respect for individuality and tolerance for each others’ flaws are what help you overcome the ups and downs as a team. Think about it.

I am very grateful to have received that advice early and soaked it in. Another thing I have learned on my own is to always have fun! It follows #3 on my list of importance: Respect, tolerance, and then FUN! Brian and I have a lot of fun in our marriage. We love to do things like dance crazy in the living room, leave love notes and take picnics together.

In the spirit of having fun, I’ve started adding “Marriage Fun Kits” to wedding gifts for friends and family. It seems a little silly but it’s okay to be silly! If you are getting married you can put one of these kits together and if not, pass the idea along to other couples who will find it useful.

You can choose just one of the items below or create a complete kit with 3 or more of the items:

Crayola Window Crayons

Use these to write sweet or sexy notes in the shower or on the bathroom mirror.

These are hard to find so I recommend buying in bulk when you find them.  I think I found my last batch at Tar-jay.  I ♥ Target.

Fridge magnets

Another way to leave love notes.

I see them at Walmart and Target all the time.

Waterguns

Because sometimes you will feel like shooting each other.

Do it safely with waterguns.

Hopefully it will lighten the mood and remind you to have just have fun.

Servant's Heart

This little pillow represents serving each other. 

You can create a fun game with the heart or any special object.

One person does something sweet like packing lunch for the other or washing and folding all the laundry that has been put off due to busy schedules.  Once you receive the heart, it is now your turn to return the favor.  Pass the heart back and forth often.  It will remind you of the importance of serving each other.

I hope you'll enjoy these fun things!  I'd love to know other ideas so leave your comments below.